I guess I intend to settle here

I just realized this weekend, that I might want to settle in the US. This realization dawned on me when I was comparing my lifestyle with that of Dharmendra and his room-mates.

If I intend to just stay in the US for some period of time and go back home, then I am definitely not doing the right things. For example, live cheaply, save a lot, aviod trips and expenses. For someone to go back, definitely need to save a lot of money given the bad forex rate of the dollar. So I should either start saving some big bucks or continue to live in the US for ever. I think I will do the latter, cause living nicely is important to me. I cannot compromise on living standards anymore. Have to eat well, live well, visit places, have fun, as much as I can.

Categories of people

Yesterday, I was having an interesting conversation with my labmates, Jeremiah and Xuzhao, about what is the analogy of different breeds in dogs, to the human race. Just like there are different breeds of dogs that still comprise the same species, is there a genetic configuration that separates different kinds of people in the human race?

Well, the simplistic answer was provided by Wikipedia. It says that there is no such genetic configurations that separate the human race into different breeds. This conclusion was reached after doing correlative studies on poeple from different races. They found that there were cases where more correlation existed between random people from around the world as compared to correlation within the people from the African continent. This proved that a race does not determine any specific genetic qualities. The african subcontinent was used as a means of comparison, since the entire continent population is supposed to have originated from a few hundred immigrants to Africa, some hundred thousand years ago.

So that settled the more scientific aspect. But coming to think of it in a Carrie Bradshaw way, I realized there are inherent categories in human beings. To me, one can classify a human being based on whether he or she follows the heart, or the brain, or the body.

What I mean is, in my world, there are people who always listen to either their heart, brain or body. I am not trying to make any kind of comparison between the type of people that they are. I am just trying to plainly break it down into classes.

To make it more clear, someone who always craves for beauty, and glamour, and fame, is someone who follows the body. Someone who is very emotional, passionate, and forthright, and generous, is someone who follows the heart. And the last category of people, those who follow their brain, to me are those who are rational, always trying to be logical, at times cunning, do what it takes to get the job one, kind of poeple.

I consider myself to be the follower of the brain. I am deceptive at times, kind at others, friendly on occasions and striaght faced on others depending on what the brain wants to get done.

Let me see if I can strenghen my theory or make any further claims regarding its validity or even compatibility.

Ending a relationship.

It was not very long back during my stay in the US that I toyed with the idea of "relationships coming to an end". Given my life back in India, sure, I went from one place to another, one school to another, one tuition class to another. But none of these so called "relocations" ever entailed me to end a relationship while starting to make some new ones.

Like for example, my first friends' circle was with my people from Tata Colony. Amazing friends they all are. Ofcourse, I have not spoken to some of them in more than five years now. But still, they ARE my friends! Same with people from school. And then my friends' circle in BTS-MTS (some really characterbuilding friendships I had). The Junior college junta, and the most recent VESIT public. All of these are well in the past, but I never really counted them out of my friends list! Although I am pretty sure I might never see or even hear from many of them ever again!

And most of these friendships were gems for me. Everyone of them taught me something, helped me grow various dimensions of my personality and was a blast to hang out with. I play the guitar thanks to Naval, I excel in studies thanks to all those nerd friends at BTS-MTS, I developed good leadership skills thanks to people in school, I was good at most sports in Tata colony thanks to my friends there, I developed a great sense of humor thanks to people in VESIT, and the list could keep continuing if I thought more about it.

So there are three questions that arise in front of me here. The first is, are all those beutiful relationships over?? Am I simply in denial in hoping that they will resurface ever in my life again and I can relive their glory?? The second question is, if these friendships were such golden phases, why haven't I ever tried to hold these things back? What have I ever done to make sure I don't lose track of all this affection that people showed for me in the past? And lastly, assuming the age old fact that good things never last forever, even if these relationships had to end for any particular and justified reasons, there is no good reason for them to end so abruptly!!!

All this thinking has only led me to the conclusion that I need to start ending my relationships gracefully, before they drown into the deep lull of nothingness.....